Joy Schulz
You didn’t come here to fix your life.
You came here to burn down who you were taught to be.
Rebirth Mentor
Because no amount of healing will work
if you’re still trying to be someone you’re not.
This isn’t self-improvement.
This is identity death and rebirth.
Rebirth Mentor
I guide women to stop being who they think they should be and become who they truly are.
Because becoming who you were actually designed to be…
is messy
is disorienting
and at times… holy sh*t.
And you don’t have to do it alone.
You don’t have to figure it all out.
You just have to start.
You’ve done the therapy.
The mindset work.
The journaling.
The “healing.”
And still…
Something feels off.
Because if you're really honest -
You’re still performing.
Still shape-shifting.Still trying to a version of you
who gets approval.
Who gets love.
Who feels safe.
Let's not sugarcoat it:
You don’t trust yourself.
Not when it actually matters.
Not fully.You second-guess your decisions.
You override your body.You look outside yourself for answers
you already have.
And it’s exhausting.
And you know it.
This isn’t a clarity problem.
This isn’t a confidence problem.
You’re not confused. And you’re not lacking anything.
You just don’t trust yourself.
Not fully. Not when it actually matters.
You say you want alignment, but you’re still making decisions based on what makes sense, what looks right, what keeps the peace. You call it being logical, responsible… but really, you’ve just learned to override what your body already knows.
So you hesitate. You second-guess. You look outside yourself for confirmation. And every time you override that quiet inner voice, you move further away from your truth.
This is an identity problem.
You’ve built a life around being the one who holds it all together. The good one. The reliable one. The easy one. The version of you that learned how to be accepted.
But that version of you?
She was never the whole truth.
So now you’re here…
Living a life that technically works—but doesn’t actually feel like yours. Making decisions that look right on paper but feel off in your body. Trying to move forward while something in you keeps pulling back.
And no strategy will fix that.
Because you’re not meant to optimize this version of your life.
You’re meant to outgrow it.
You don’t need a better plan.
You need to stop building your life
from a version of you
that was never fully you to begin with.
WHAT THIS WORK ACTUALLY IS
This is the part most people won’t take you into.
Because it’s not aesthetic. It’s not comfortable. And it will ask you to see yourself honestly—without filters, without coping, without pretending you’re fine.
This work is realizing how much of your life has been built around who you had to be to be loved, accepted, or safe… and how that version of you is still running the show.
It’s catching yourself mid-decision and thinking, “Wait… do I actually want this, or do I just think I should?” It’s noticing how often you say yes when your body is a full-body no, and feeling the quiet resentment that builds when you keep showing up for everyone else… but not for yourself.
It’s seeing how often you’ve overridden your own intuition—and why it feels so hard to trust yourself now. It’s sitting with emotions that don’t resolve in a journal entry or a deep breath—the ones that linger, stretch you, and ask to be fully felt instead of managed or bypassed.
It’s grieving the version of you who did everything “right”… and still didn’t feel fulfilled. Letting go of being the strong one, the easy one, the one who holds it all together—and not knowing who you are without those roles.
It’s being in the in-between where nothing feels solid… where you can’t go back, but you’re not fully there yet either.
Yeah…
It’s that kind of work.
The kind where you see, clearly, the ways you’ve been abandoning yourself to be accepted.
The kind where you realize you don’t actually trust yourself yet… and instead of avoiding that truth, you face it.
And we don’t rush past that.
We go there.
ON THE OTHER SIDE
You don’t just “feel better.”
You trust yourself—fully. Not just when it’s easy, not just when it makes sense, but in the moments that used to send you spiraling.
You stop looking for validation. Stop explaining yourself. Stop shape-shifting depending on who you’re around.
You move differently. Clear. Grounded. Self-led.
You become someone who can sit in discomfort without betraying herself to escape it. Someone who honors her truth even when it’s inconvenient.
You don’t just heal.
You become someone who no longer abandons herself.
And that?
That’s where everything changes.
Hi! I'm Joy
And before I ever guided anyone through rebirth… I had to walk through my own.
I didn’t come from a life where I was taught to trust myself. I was raised in a religious cult where obedience was expected, questioning wasn’t safe, and who I naturally was—my sensitivity, my AuDHD, my bisexuality—wasn’t accepted. I learned very early how to shrink, how to perform, how to become what was needed to survive.
My life has been shaped by abuse, toxic environments, and experiences that disconnected me from my body, my voice, and my sense of safety.
I was taught to be a servant.
To override myself.
To not trust my own instincts.
And over time…
I did exactly that.
I lost myself.
Not all at once—but slowly, in the quiet ways we’re taught to abandon who we are in order to be accepted. And even when I started doing the “work”—the therapy, the healing, the growth—something still felt off. Because I was still trying to fix myself inside a system that was never designed for me in the first place.
Everything changed when I found Human Design and realized I’m an Emotional Projector. Not because it gave me something new to become—but because it showed me what had always been true. That my emotions weren’t the problem. That my sensitivity wasn’t wrong. That I was never meant to live the way I had been trying to.
So I stopped trying to fix myself.
And started unlearning.
Unlearning the conditioning.
Unlearning the roles.
Unlearning the belief that I couldn’t trust myself.
And slowly, I rebuilt. Not into someone better.
But into someone who actually felt like me.
And I know how disorienting that space is.
The in-between.
Where you can’t go back to who you were…
but you don’t fully know who you are yet.
Now, I guide women through that same process.
Not from theory.
Not from a textbook.
But from lived experience.
I know what it’s like to question everything you’ve been taught. To feel like you’re too much and not enough at the same time. To stand in the middle of your life and realize… this isn’t actually mine.
And I know what it takes to come back from that.
This work isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about coming home to yourself—after everything that told you not to.
WHERE THIS WORK MEETS YOU
You don’t need to figure it all out right now. Just notice what pulls you.
🔥 If you’re ready to go deep…
This is where we stop skimming the surface and actually meet what’s underneath.
The patterns.
The conditioning.
The identity you’ve outgrown.
1:1 Rebirth Work is a space for real, root-level transformation— where you’re not doing this alone, and you’re not bypassing what’s hard.
👉 Enter 1:1 Work by booking a Resonance Call
🌿 If you’re craving support, but not alone…
There’s something powerful about doing this work in a space where other women are also choosing truth.
The Return to Root is an 8-week group experience I co-facilitate— a guided process of unlearning, reconnecting, and coming back to yourself.
If that kind of container is calling you, trust that.
🌙 Or you can simply stay in my world…
No pressure. No timeline.
Just let the work meet you where you are.
🎙️ Listen — The Sovereign Leader
📓 Read — Alchemy Between the Lines
👉 Explore the Podcast + Substack
You don’t need to do everything.
You just need to start where it feels true.